Explaining differences in openness to my daughters?
We are the proud adoptive parents of 2 wonderful little girls. Kendra is 3 & Christa is 18 months. They have different birth/ first moms. Kendra’s mom had a difficult childhood & said it was...
View ArticleHow does someone tell an adopted child that their birth name was different?
I’m asking this for a friend. (Really! I am!) She and her husband are in a somewhat open adoption with her infant daughter’s birth mother. (Birth mother originally stated she did not want any contact...
View ArticleDo you agree with the industry dictating how adoption is going to be handled...
We live in Canada and open adoption is a relatively new concept here. The government has been slowly switching to the same process as the US. I’m wondering how people feel about the process and how...
View ArticleHow do I challenge this openness?
My “open” adoption in the recent months has taken on a life of it’s own. I placed my child through a private, religious agency, and was given little information on my rights, and the things I was able...
View ArticleWe found our daughter’s birthmom online, do we contact her?
I adopted my daughter (I’ll call her Willow) as a newborn. We hoped for a fully open adoption, but so far, the birth mother hasn’t initiated any contact; we send updates to our agency for her, but...
View ArticleAs adoptive parents, do you value the gifts/contact/etc of a first mom more...
I know that the focus on openness in adoption usually is focused on the first mom, but I want to know this: As adoptive parents, do you value the gifts/contact/etc of a first mom more than a first dad?...
View ArticleHow involved was/is your family in either the choice to adopt or the adoption...
I’ve always been curious about what it was like for ‘the other side’ the adoptive families and how their families reacted to the decision to adopt or pursue adoption. For me, as a first mom, I...
View ArticleHow does your family deal with the different levels of openness with two or...
We adopted a baby in 2007, she came home from the hospital with us. The birth mom asked to have only letters and pictures sent 4 times a year. After 2 years she asked that she no longer receive any...
View ArticleWhere can I read the perspectives of adult adoptees who had openness?
My husband and I are leaning toward adoption and I have to say Im scared after many things I have read. Blogs from birth parents who view the adoptive parents as villians, sad and confused people who...
View ArticleHow to handle birthfather ignoring our boundaries?
My daughter is 4.5 years old. When she was born we attempted openness with her birthfamily. They were inappropriate at the time, calling themselves Mommy and Daddy and her by her name they gave her and...
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